|Dr. Val Farmer|
|Rural Mental Health & Family Relationships|
Making The Most Of The New Year
January 19, 2009
Goals energize us. Goals give us hope. They channel our choices and bring us the life we desire. Goals are the first step in successful accomplishment. Nothing great happens without a design and determined effort.
"A man without a purpose is like a ship without a rudder - a waif, a nothing, a no man. Have a purpose in life, and having it, throw such strength of mind and muscle into your work as God has given you." - Carlyle
Too many people lose track of their true goals and priorities. Too many retirees havent cultivated meaningful goals for their retirement years. Life experiences are daunting and can block the pathway to goals. Some goals are lost and need to be replaced by new ones.
As we travel lifes path, we learn and grow into new goals and dreams. The old ones are no longer sufficient for the person we have become.
Having common goals are the first step in building teamwork and cooperation. Having too many goals or competing goals is self-defeating. The more uncomplicated our vision, the more likely our efforts will be successful. "If you chase two rabbits at once, both will get away."
"It is an old lesson - a worthy purpose, patient energy for its accomplishment, a resoluteness undaunted by difficulties, and then success. " - W. M. Punshon
The pathway to success is marked by constancy of purpose and dedication to long term growth. This means anticipating changes before they reach a level that requires action - to be proactive instead of reactive. Resources need to be committed to long term planning and innovation. Planning is the process of solving tomorrow's problems today.
Planning and purpose. Planning is different than problem solving. Both skills are needed to accomplish goals.
Problem solving is looking for the best or most efficient path to one correct solution. Problem solving presupposes that the problem is known and well-defined. The solution is a short term reaction to environmental problems. Problem solving is solving today's problems today. Problem solving skills involve testing, evaluating, trouble shooting, simulating and analyzing.
A planning orientation looks at what gives rise to the problem or what purposes are served by implementing the solution. Several solutions can serve one purpose. Planning is important when the problem is not well defined.
Too many people confuse tools or methods with goals. They may be good at problem solving but not planning. They don't ask why they are doing what they are doing.
Defining your goals. Here are a few exercises that will help you take a long term perspective of your life.
- Write a one page description of your epitaph. How would you like to be remembered? What are the
accomplishments that are really important to you?
- Describe your life as you want it to be five years from now. Ten years from now. How can you reach this goal? By what method? What resources, skills, experiences, or training do you need to get to where you want to be?
- Imagine a capstone position you want for your career or for your ideal quality of life. What is it that you envision as the endpoint for your dreams and aspirations? Develop a "quality of life" statement that describes purposes and values.
What will you need to know or what experiences will you need to have to enable you to be in that position? What are the obstacles that will prevent you from arriving at your destination? What is the next step? Who else could be useful to you in that quest? What are your talents and skills and how could you use them to better benefit?
- Suppose when you go to sleep tonight, a miracle happens. The problems you have are solved. You are living your ideal life. Since you have been asleep, you don't know the miracle has happened. What will be different when you wake up that will tell you the miracle happened? What will you notice? How would you be different? What else will be different?
Going through these exercises will answer the questions, "What constitutes success?" and, "How will I know when I get there?" They will put you in touch with your basic goals and values.
We can design a life. Our own! Make your plans and make them happen.
Choose goals that are worthy of you. We are actors, creators, creatures of desire and capable of great energy. We need to marshal that energy and desire toward goals that ennoble ourselves and benefit others. Pleasure and happiness are by-products of well-lived lives and goals unto themselves. Dont be distracted or sell yourself short by enticements and blandishments that have no lasting value. Make each day count.
"There is no road to success but through a strong clear purpose. Nothing can take its place. A purpose underlies character, culture, position, attainment of every sort." - T.T. Munger