Readers Give More Advice To Montana Farm Woman (June 1998)
A Montana woman wrote about giving up her city career to marry a farmer. She felt she
didn’t have challenging work in her life and was shut out from the family farming
operation. Here are some more responses.
From South Dakota. A woman wrote about her family’s experience of moving
back to a family farm. "I can actually thank the Lord for this because I absolutely
HATED the whole experience and we would have never had gotten out of there if they (her
Learning To Control Anger (June 1998)
"Heat not a furnace for your foe so hot that it doth singe yourself."
-Shakespeare - Henry VIII.
Anger does much more harm that we realize. Our judgment fails. We badly underestimate
the impact that anger can have on a close relationship. Frequent experiences of intense
anger stimulate further anger in our self and others.
"Once anger begins to take control of the mind, it calls just what it does
cruelly." - St. Gregory the Great
Is Val Farmer Guilty Of Male Bashing? (July 1998)
In my graduation advice column I included a couple of statements directed at young men:
"If she's angry, she's right," and, "Never strike a woman." I received
Your advice to graduates finally goaded me to write and complain about your male
bashing. There is a long string in your columns of a bias against men in both your advice
and catering to some women's endless whining.
As it happens, the majority of intersex abuse is initiated ...
With Empty Nest, One More Bird Flies Away (January 1998)
Recently I have encountered several farmers in their 5Os and 60s who have been left by
their wives. These women finally threw up their hands and wanted out. I have met wives in
the throes of deciding how to preserve their mental health because of poor marriages.
Their husbands have refused to come with them for counseling.
At this age, the nest is empty. The duties and responsibilities of mothering are
largely over. The satisfaction of positive relationships with their children ...
Management Blueprint For Family Farming (November 1998)
How do you keep the peace, have family love and harmony and run a demanding business
with family members? How do you keep business and family relationships straight? Do
business conflicts ruin family togetherness? Can family togetherness interfere in
resolving important problems in farm and ranch management? Here are six essential elements
for running a successful multi-family or multi-generation family farm or ranch.
1. Selection of compatible partners. Not all children ...
How Children Learn To Bounce Back (January 1998)
In 1989, Dr. Werner reported on 31 years of observation of children growing up in
chronic poverty, highlighting the qualities of survivors of dysfunctional families and
neighborhoods. He found that one out of three high risk children grew into competent young
adults who loved well, worked well and played well. He describes this skill among survivor
children as resiliency.
Resilient. Don't you love that word? Resilient. It is one of the words in the English
language that gives a ...
How Does A Family Cope With Incapacitating Illness (November 1998)
No child, adult or family should have to deal with the ravages of illness or
disability. We can agree on this. Unfortunately, life doesn't always cooperate. When
severe illness or debilitating injury occurs, it seems like a nightmare.
The challenges facing caregivers. Family members face enormous changes, both
physical and psychological. On the physical side, a family member takes on the role of
caregiver. They provide all the medical assistance they can plus assist with ...
Ten Lessons From Clinton's Sorry Show (August 1998)
I am disappointed. At the time I am writing this, it is in the immediate aftermath of
Clintons admission that he had an inappropriate relationship with a former White
President Clinton has performed a service for our country, albeit a negative one, of
being an example of what not to do. He has given our country a great lesson in sex
education and integrity. Parents and children have been forced to discuss his behavior and
what it means. We have gained ten le ...
Food, Food, Glorious Food (December 2006)
This article talks aboout the dilemna of eating too much at the holidays and what to do about it.